Living on your own terms:你和阿拉丁都不需要别人的肯定

Healing Experience · 色彩缤纷的魔法世界

· Magical world 色彩鲜艳的歌舞串烧非常具有观赏性，制作精美，把印度culture的最美好的一面展示出来。全程构图非常符合我的亚洲‘对称审美‘ 可以说是 Mesmorizing！歌曲中的故事与画面紧紧关联，剧情进展流畅。作为一个stroy telling非常成功（当然了来自于《一千零一夜》的故事本身非常优秀） 非常有趣。

· with friends -- the normal afternoon hangout 虽然有点gg 感谢我的朋友们这么善良，可能真的都是仙女吧。单单就是和大家在一起就让我想要be a better person。a lot of people inspire me to be better person.

Jasmin · 茉莉公主的Girl power

女性角色定位Feminist 2019版的最大亮点 'Speechless' 那部分特别好听！（听到哭，Here comes a wave meant to wash me away 感觉自己就是那个在暴风雨中的公主）I won't live unspoken!

童话故事只是童话故事吗？· Real world vs Magical world

you could really die if you were to be the real Aladin, in the cave and when he was sent to cold desert. Life is a game? or Life is not a game but the real Alaska where you die if make a bad enough decision. You shall be optimistic? 虽然看的时候无法不在想这些艰难险阻都是童话的一部分，阿拉丁不会真的被困在洞穴里，公主不会真的嫁给Jafar，但在真正的生活里这些都是未知数。在童话故事里你不需要担心糟糕的后果，可是在真实世界里你真的会死亡，生病和受伤。可是担心这些后果又有什么用呢？

在真实的世界里，你仍然不应该担心这些没有发生的事情。担心只会使你分心，无法用自己所有的精力来应对当下的状况。在真实的世界里你所要知道的就只是：生活不是玩笑，要对生命一直有着敬畏之心。

阿拉丁在物质世界里失去了自我 · connecting with your true value within

Aladin was losing himself in pretending to be Prince Ali. But the genie says "eventually you will have to tell the truth."

Crisis: Aladdin was worrying a lot to be pretending a prince, he sort of buy into the lie. "I am Prince Ali." He was growing dependent on his outside. He no longer wanted to set the genie free. He was becoming vein and uncaring. "you only needed me because I have a wish to set you free." He was saying that giene wanted something from him too and that was why the genie went the extra mile for him.

“Finding oneself while seeking approval of others, means the murderof self.”

我是一个非常insecure的人，我需要别人的approval。外在的approval是我长期以来的动力。我不了解intrinsic motivation at all。我想要被夸奖。这一点不仅在我所做的决定中都有体现，甚至深入到我的日常习惯中。我曾经被评论在演讲的时候过于依赖观众的reaction。可是没有意识到这与我找寻“自我”的联系。

我和阿拉丁都无法找寻自我 -- 如果我们一直在seeking 别人approval的路上越走越远。

Living on your own terms · 你和阿拉丁都不需要别人的肯定

Insecurity and Need for Approval Can you say that Aladdin was blinded by all the glory and was endulging in the affirmation of Princess Jasmin. "The power was not to earn recognition from the people who we wanted approval from, but to defy them."

"Aladdin is shown to be deeply insecure about himself and constantly works to earn the affections and approval of many other characters, most notably Princess Jasmine."

what does the movie say about that. Aladdin lost his lamp and has let it fallen into evil hands. He was exposed unvoluntarily by the Jafar, the issue was not resolved then. When in the end the genie asked what he wanted, the genie assumed that he would want to be a prince again or, to be able to change the law. But instead he set the geniu free. He walked out of the palace. He no longer needed approval because he has proven himself worthy while being himself. you dont get anywhere when your soul focus is on earning approvals of others; rather when you be yourself, focus on every present moment.

Aladdin was able to resolve the conflict not with the help of the geniu, nor the magical carpet, his wit was the solving factor. If I, an outsider, were to define who Aladdin was: His witty charateristic is the main thing.

2019年的Aladdin 电影的还原度还是非常高的，在原作中阿拉丁也是一个insecure，想要变富有，想要被认可的聪明街头小子。Aladdin的故事不是他如何突破万难成为人生赢家，而是阿拉丁找寻自我的故事。故事结尾他不再需要神灯为他实现成为王子的愿望，他不再seek approval。他不需要财富和物质的满足。他孑然一身走出皇宫。到这里故事就结束了 crisis resolved。

“Seeking validation will keep you trapped. You don’t need anyone or anything to approve of your worth. When you understand this, you’ll be free.”

“When you do not seek or need approval, you are at your most powerful.”

“Do things for you, not for the approval or satisfaction of others. You’ll attract the people who will matter.”

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” Lao Tzu

“Stop looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment, for validation, security, or love – you have a treasure within that is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer.” Eckhart Toller

“No approval needed, I live my life on my own terms.” 一直没有理解什么叫做“living on your own terms" 在JW的书中读到的时候却一直记了下来。“living on your own terms, no matter how bad it is, is better than living on other people's terms." 今天在找电影里面关于approval的quote的时候偶然看见，我才明白了。living on your own terms means you are your own master，you seek to please no one.

feeling of freedom/ on my way to swim