他不坚定了，我很强硬。于是就这样了。

台词摘录
1、Conor: There’s only one heart in this body. Have mercy on me.
我只有一颗心，对我仁慈点。
El: Shut up.
闭嘴。
2、He went soft. I stayed hard. That was that.
他不坚定了，我很强硬。于是就这样了。
3、They say that if you walk away from things, then you’ll just keep walking away. Start a whole history of walk-aways.
有人说过，如果你开始逃离，就会一直不断地逃离。在你的人生中就会一直在逃避。
4、Mom: I played second violin on this. 我在这曲子里拉二号小提琴手的位置。
El: Boston Symphony. Itzhak Perlman. I haven’t forgotten. 波士顿交响乐团。我没忘。
Mom: No, I was just reminding myself. 没有，我只是想给自己提个醒。
Mom: I never wanted to be a mother. 我从来没想成为一个母亲。
El: Not much you can do about that now. 现在你也没办法了呀。
Mom: Yeah. It’s too late. I was too young when I had you. I was the baby. 是的，太晚了。怀你的时候我太年轻了。我还是个孩子呢。
El: Why are you telling me this? 你干嘛跟我说这些？
Mom: I’m telling you this because I don’t want to lie to you. I don’t want you to take our relationship too personally. 我告诉你这些是因为我不想骗你。我不想让我们之间的关系变得太私人。
El: I don’t. 我不会的。
El: Why didn’t you tell me Conor came by the house the other day? 你为什么不告诉我前几天Conor来过？
Mom: Run for your life, El. 你快逃命吧，El。
El: What is that supposed to mean? 你什么意思？
Mom: Well, this is all too realistic. Run away for a while. 这一切都太真实了，你得逃开一段时间。
El: You’re sure you are not projecting? 你确定你没事？
Mom: Yes, yes, I’m sure I’m not projecting. 是，我没事。
5、Conor’s father: There’s always one that haunts us. So give her time. 两个相爱的人之间总会有羁绊的。所以给她些时间吧。
Father: A shooting star only lasts a second. But aren’t you glad to at least have seen it? 一颗流星划过夜空只需要一秒时间。但是你至少看见了它的美丽是吧？

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Eleanor suddenly threw herself into the river when she was walking along the street, but was saved. After this attempted suicide, she disappeared from her husband’s life.
With the story going on like this, the trigger behind all of this was emerging. Their son died. Eleanor was sad and even sadder to see her husband not affected, carrying on with his normal life. After six months’ endurance, El chose to commit suicide as an outcry against that. As a consequence, there showed up a divergence between their lives.
”He went soft. I stayed hard. That was that.” A professor of El once said like this as a conclusion of her life with her husband. It went well for El and Conor as well. Conor seemed soft while El seemed to stay hard.
Faced with their son’s death, Conor chose to continue with his normal life, putting away all the staff that used to belong to their son and enjoying Chinese food. When his restaurant nearly broke down, he chose to work in his father’s restaurant although he used to hate his father for his cruelty to his mother. But was Conor not sad about his son’s death at all? Not really. He asked his father never to talk about this. He was trying to avoid this huge sorrow. He was trying to bury them all in his deep memory. Conor is just the sort of guy, like his father who had three girlfriends after divorce. This kind of people always know how to survive and how to carry on with their lives.
Meanwhile, Eleanor preferred to leave herself grieving for her son’s death. Moreover, she wished her husband should show the equal sadness as hers. Maybe inherited from her mother who was a musician and a French, Eleanor presents more sensibility. They’re usually slower to walk out of the shadows.
In this way, I have to say El may be the soft one while Conor stays hard. Indulging oneself in the past is not necessarily wise. Life goes on without waiting. So at the end of the movie, in a dark night, Conor was strolling in the park, followed by Eleanor at a distance. They didn’t meet or greet. They seemed not to notice each other. This is an opening ending. But in my opinion, Conor walking ahead while Eleanor following afterwards means after all of this, Conor has already lived an advanced life than El. He kept up with the pace of life while El resumed her essay. They still loved each other but they were in a different time and space.