没有什么真正的感同身受，所谓的I know what you going through,I can feel your pain,that's total crap.甚至是自己的家人，没有亲身经历过你所经历的，也不会理解。人们说他们理解，都是以旁观者的角度产生的理解。
想到老友记中phoebe 在医院in labor 那集,全程疼痛不已,结果身旁傻傻的joey也突然疼的不行，phoebe 瞬间有一丝丝感动，并说道，uhhh,sympathy pain.知道joey 越喊越大声，phoebe started to thinking he was just trying to take her thunder.but actually,it's kidney stone that causing the pain.
还有世界上一个未解之谜，究竟是女人生孩子痛还是when a man is hit in the balls more painful.there is no way to find out ,cuz no one can experience both. Also in friends,in the last season Chandlear also want to find out this question but there's no answer to that
There was a girl who usually told me about her troubles in daily life, sometimes in the beginning I can feel her trouble .At least I think I can but then days after days I start to getting a little worn out I feel like she's full of pessimism.and I really don't appreciate it and I'm getting weary of it but now I'm thinking the main reason may be that from the beginning I don't really get the problem as she feels about it. Maybe it concerns about the ways you tell it,about the people who listens to it ,how he feels about you and how he feels about things .but in the end I believe there is no sympathy pain for real.